I discovered a list of 20 useful pieces of advice to help you live your life, via a Tweet on Twitter. It was the usual "click bait" kind of thing, heavy with adverts and links to lots of other pointless lists, and had already been stolen off various other websites. However, I thought that this time the contents were quite interesting, so I've shamelessly compiled then into an advert-free version and then placed them on my own website.
- Stop spending time with the wrong people
Life is too short to spend time with people who don't want you or don't make you happy. If someone wants you in their life, they’ll make room for you, and you shouldn’t have to fight for a spot. Never persist with someone who continuously overlooks your worth. Your true friends are the ones who stand beside you when you're at your worst, not just when you're at your best.
- Don't run away from your problems
Tackle your issues head on, it won’t be easy. There is no person in the world capable of flawlessly handling everything thrown at them. We aren’t supposed to be able to instantly solve problems. We're supposed to get upset, sad, hurt, stumble and fall. An important part of life is to face problems, learn, adapt, and solve them over the course of time. This is what ultimately molds us into the person we become.
- Don't lie to yourself
You can lie to anyone else in the world, but you can’t lie to yourself. It's totally counter-productive.
- Don't put your own needs on the back burner
Don't forget that you are special too. By all means help others, but help yourself too.
- Don't try to be someone you’re not
One of the greatest challenges in life is being yourself in a world that’s trying to make you like everyone else. Someone will always be prettier, someone will always be cleverer, someone will always be younger, but they will never be you. Don’t change in order to make people like you. Be yourself and the right people will love the real you.
- Don't try to hold onto the past
You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading your last one.
- Don't be scared to make a mistake.
Doing something and getting it wrong is much more productive than doing nothing. You end up regretting the things you didn't do far more than the things you did.
- Don't berate yourself for old mistakes
No matter how things go wrong, one thing is for sure: mistakes help us find the person and things that are right for us. We all make mistakes, have struggles, and perhaps regret things in our past. Don't let them define you; you are not your mistakes, you are not your struggles, and you have the power to shape your future.
- Don't trying to buy happiness
Many of the things we desire are expensive. The things that really satisfy us are totally free.
- Don't look exclusively to others for happiness
If you’re not happy with who you are on the inside, you won’t be happy in a long-term relationship with anyone else either. You have to create stability in your own life first before you can share it with someone else.
- Don't prevaricate
Don’t think too much or you’ll create a problem that wasn’t even there in the first place. Evaluate situations and take decisive action. You cannot change what you refuse to confront. Making progress involves risk, and taking that first step.
- Don't think you're not ready
Nobody ever feels 100% ready when an opportunity arises. Most great opportunities in life force us to grow beyond our comfort zones, which means we won’t feel totally comfortable at first.
- Don't get involved in relationships for the wrong reasons
Relationships must be chosen wisely. It’s better to be alone than to be in the wrong company. There’s no hurry; if something is meant to be, it will happen – in the right time, with the right person, and for the right reasons. Fall in love when you’re ready, not when you’re lonely.
- Don't reject new relationships just because old ones didn’t work
In life you’ll realize that there is a purpose for everyone you meet. Some will test you, some will use you and some will teach you. Some will bring out the best in you.
- Don't try to compete against everyone else
Don’t worry about what others are doing better than you. Success is a battle between you and yourself only.
- Don't be jealous of others
Jealousy is the art of counting someone else’s blessings instead of your own.
- Don't complain or feel sorry for yourself
Life’s obstacles are there for a reason: to shift your path in a direction that is meant for you. You may not see or understand everything the moment it happens, and it may be tough. Reflect back on those obstacles you encountered in the past. You’ll often see that eventually they led you to a better place, person, state of mind, or situation.
- Don't hold grudges
Don’t live your life with hate in your heart. You will end up hurting yourself more than the people you hate.
- Don't let others bring you down to their level
Don't lower your standards to accommodate those who refuse to raise theirs.
- Don't waste time explaining yourself to others
Your friends don’t need explanations and your enemies won’t believe them anyway. Simply do what you know in your heart is right.